Tuesday, February 12, 2013
The First Time...
The first time I saw you... the first time I held you... the first time I brought you close to me... was the the greatest moment of my life. It was a very surreal moment... very surreal for first 6 months really. It's an awkward moment. A difficult moment. A person goes from being virtually free from many responsibilities to having to be a very responsible person. A lot of my personal life, the extra luxuries, were given up... but I wouldn't change it for the world.
There are multiple opportunities that you will come across in your life. Some you will excel in... other's you will fail. That's a facet of life that you will have to embrace because there is no getting around it. However, you only have one chance with a child to do it right. There are no second chances and the last thing I would ever want is to fail at being a father. You break it you buy it... there are no returns. LOL
Of course, that wouldn't be an option. But I do want you to know that you have changed my life tremendously. I've accomplished so much since the both of you have been born... and I really owe a lot of it to you and your mother. My own mother has done a lot for me and she is my greatest mentor... but life got serious once I had my first child.
You may not understand this right now, when you're reading this, at this moment. But when you have your children of your own, I hope you'll be able to finally comprehend what I'm talking about. There is nothing in this world that I would rather have... than the two of you in my life. I enjoy your company, our laughs, our going out, play dates, soccer and basketball games, playing video games.... our talks... I just love you period and life would not be the same without you. -Dad
Saturday, December 29, 2012
I Will Always Love You
I know that there will be times that I get very angry with you over things that you have done or mistakes that you have made. And your first reaction will be that I hate hate or that I dislike you or something close to that... all of which is the furthest from the truth. My job as a father is raise you and instill ethics, morals and values that can make you a healthy member in society. You will make mistakes, we both know that. You will not be perfect and no one is infallible. If the the mistake is severe I can't ignore it and pretend that it didn't happen. These are teachable moments for you and my role as a father is to find some way to teach you through that moment.
These moment's may be tense and you may become angry and hurt by the things I say. But what is most important is that I am angry because you are my child and I have high expectations of you. If I didn't love you I wouldn't are what you do as long as it doesn't affect me or my lively hood. However, since you are my child, every action, whether positive or negative, is a direct reflection on me and your mother.
You may not understand what I am saying now and it may take you a while to understand what I am saying. It may be a long time before you fully understand what I am saying. I just want you to know that we have many day ahead of us where we may get upset at each other, but that is not born out of hatred. Despite whatever challenges that we have as a family, no matter how angry we get at each other.... on thing will always remain constant... you are my children and I will always love you.
Saturday, December 22, 2012
Friends...
Humans are social creatures and for the most part seek the companionship of others. You too will be seeking the companionship of others. Some of these friends will be good choices and others not so much. Some will be very good to you and other will hurt you deeply. I won't always be there to help you manage your friendships, nor will you want me to.
Sunday, December 16, 2012
My Children
Although I started this blog in 2007, this is my first actual post I've ever made. Therefore, I am new to blogging despite having this page for 5 years. I was actually surprised when I opened up Blogger and discovered that I still had this account despite never using it. I assumed that with 5 years of inactivity that this blog would have disappeared. I've been telling my friends that I've been thinking about starting a blog and I'm really pleased that I found this page gathering dust in the blogger matrix.
This blog, I hope, will be the beginning of an electronic record of my thoughts, teachings and parental guidance for them to have. We are all one step away from death, that much I do know. Of course for the majority of us, it is uncertain when that time shall come. My desire as a father is to leave a tangible piece of me behind for my children to grasp on to, should I ever leave this earth without ample time to talk to them.
Therefore, this blog will be a collection of my introspection's on life, my photographs and other media pieces I have created. Although this blog is dedicated to my children, I am also publishing this so that I can share this with the world....
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